Are you really able to think positively when things are going totally upside down?
Many of us has gone through situations in our life, when it’s really hard to think positive. We all had those phases that shatter our positivity, leaving us feeling defeated and disillusioned. Situations like preparing wholeheartedly for an exam, leaving no stone unturned, only to stumble and fall when the results come crashing down. We love deeply, entrusting our heart, but find betrayal seeping in, leaving us wounded. We cherish certain friends as family yet discover we’re merely another face in the crowd. Due to all these adversities, comparison creeps in, intensifying our anguish. We label ourselves as unlucky and destined to be perpetual losers. Love becomes a bitter brew, and we convince ourselves that friendships are ephemerals. These negative thoughts can overshadow life’s beauty.
How many of you have been advised to “Be positive” no matter what?
Although, during such situations, it is really challenging to be positive. Some, people can still manage to be positive no matter what or how hard the situation is. But for some it’s totally impossible to pull themselves together. Don’t worry it’s completely alright. In moments of such distress, they seek advice from those, they hold close. Often encounter well-intentioned yet cliched responses. Our well-wisher’s urge us not to overthink, to maintain a positive outlook. Assure us that everything will eventually be fine. While these words carry good intentions, but they not fully address the depth of emotions or the complexities of situations. Because, in such situations we are not actually seeking pre-packaged solutions but for empathic listening, understanding and sometimes just a warm long hug.
What if we don’t find the empathic listener?
I hope that all my wonderful readers have someone who can truly empathize with them. But for those who may not have such a person, there’s no need to worry because I’m here to offer my support. I haven’t encountered my empathic listener yet, so in such situations, I’ve learned to become my own source of comfort. To elevate myself, I follow a few practical steps that I’m sharing with you, hoping they might be helpful for you too.
To understand my negative thoughts, I jot them down on paper and confront them head-on, striving to defy their influence.
· I utilize flow charts to gain insights into the root causes of these negative thoughts.
· Taking full responsibility for the situation, I refrain from blaming others for the challenges I face.
While this process doesn’t instantly turn everything positive, it does provide me with clarity about my emotions and thoughts, making them less distressing. I encourage you to try this technique during difficult times and see if it works for you.
If you are having negative thoughts frequently and want me to hear you out as your empathic listener, then you can contact me.
Thank you for reading.
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