What is anger? Why we got angry? Is it normal to be angry? Let’s find answer to all these questions in this post
Anger is that basic human emotion, which a person experience, when he feels a strong sense of displeasure, frustration, or hostility towards a perceived threat, injustice, or provocation. It is a natural response to various situations. Anger is a complex emotion in comparison to other emotions. It can arise from a variety of triggers like personal frustrations, biasness of behavior, a sense of injustice, or an inability to control a situation. When someone got angry it can be predicted from his physiological responses, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and adrenaline release. It is natural to be angry as we are just humans. As said earlier, it is an emotion similar to other emotions like love, fear, joy, etc. But it’s most devastating among all. Anger can be very destructive and overwhelming, leaving individuals feeling powerless and mentally paralyzed. It affects brain’s normal functioning, making it difficult to focus on anything else. The intense emotions associated with anger can make a person feel isolated and disconnected from others.
How many of you can say that you never got angry on anything and that you are always calm and no matter how much you are humiliated anger just doesn’t grow deeps in you. If it is really so, then KUDOS! you don’t need to read this post as time is precious. I am a basic human. When someone pulls a trigger, I got angry. But I am not aggressive so every time I got angry I just become stuffed with lots of emotions. I stop eating and cry in an isolated space so that no one can watch me. This kept happen for a last few years. As before that, I never got an opportunity to get this angry because of somebody else. But during these years anger really triggered every nerve of my brain. I become totally insensitive to anger. Now, no matter what happens, how many blames I got, how many times I was wronged. I don’t get angry at all.
I am not a saint now, but it’s a big thank to self-help books available in the market, from those books I learnt, that the worst thing I can do with myself is getting angry. Although, it’s not like I don’t get angry at all. I can’t stay angry for long time now, which is clearly visible from my predictive face. Every emotion I am feeling within is completely visible on my face, that’s what a predictive face is. So, I can never even fake people that i am not angry. So, I just let the emotions come and flow naturally, all I can control is how I respond. If something happens, that trigger my anger I got angry, but with awareness of the fact that if i stay like this for any long, it will deteriorate my mental health. Then, within a few seconds I achieve my calm again.
But recently, I felt a very unusual type of anger and that lasted for a longer duration. I got angry at my lab juniors as they are not learning things fast. I wanted the dissertation work students to learn a lot which they should know as master’s degree holders. I tried to teach them basic things to make them 1% better each day. They might be burdened with overflow of information or may be not interested in learning. So, I stopped pushing myself harder for them.
Rather, I tried hard to understand my thoughts during this whole Period. Then I realized that when I am myself a dissertation student, I have no proper guidance about what to do and how to start. So when, I found two people at the same stage I just acted in reflection of my past self. What kind of mentor I want at that time, I tried to be one, without even considering what kind of a mentor, they are seeking for. So, it’s my fault, I accepted the fact and my anger in the form of frustration disappeared. For my life, this turned out as a chapter with beautiful lesson for life “No matter what you want others to be, they will be only what they choose to be”.